The Times Up and the Me Too Movement

2017 was the year of the women who had had enough with sexual assault and objectification.

Somewhere in Hollywood, an aspiring actress now has hope that her voice will be heard. That she won’t just be dismissed because ‘it happens.’

The Times Up movement stemmed from the fact that many actresses out there lost their dignity and their self respect because they decided to pursue a career in acting.

The Me too movement was a movement of this sorts- except it was for women who had already undergone sexual assault in the harsh movie industry.

Hollywood can be  tough place for any person. The high beauty standards set by some women who consider their appearances to be the most important has pushed people to undergo physically changing surgeries. The demands of directors and producers towards actresses to look a certain way and to make or break their careers has led to many lives being thrown down the drain.

Whether it is Kevin Spacey or Harvey Weinstein, the fact is that assault was seen as something natural. People say, well is you want to make it somewhere you’ve got to sacrifice what you love.

But that isn’t true!

You can be strong, beautiful, and dignified in your own self if you want to. Actresses don’t realise that keeping up with the demand of toxic producers, directors, and actors can ruin their life in a heart beat.

You shouldn’t be expected to dress yourself a particular way to make it somewhere. You can make it anywhere if you change the perception of how you get there. You can develop yourself in such a way that producers and directors beg for you to come and be a part of their cast.

It’s all about yourself. It’s all about making yourself so strong, that you are immune to the practices of conventional hollywood. Make a mark or yourself. That’s the only way anyone will get anywhere.



The Role of Women in Films


A few months ago, I was seeing a film, which involved a guy chasing a girl (sometimes literally) and asking her for her number, address, and what not. The girl keeps on saying no, and focuses on her studies like the normal human she is. But the boy doesn’t give up. Skipping the pleasantries, the boy and the girl, in the end, get married.

Now, these films do not show the reality of life, as many of you know.

In reality, situations like these hardly ever end well.

Instead of getting married to the boy, the girl has acid thrown on her face for refusing to get married to a certified creep. Instead of leading a happy life, the girl is sold off by her parents for money.

These kind of films do promote a certain level of objectification. They teach people that it’s okay to stare at and pursue a woman endlessly if she’s dressed in shorts and crop tops (like anyone who is normal); it’s okay to randomly stalk and click pictures of a girl even if she has said ‘NO’ many times.

But it’s not. It is not a joke, and it does not end happily.

I see interviews of many film stars, and they always talk about bringing some kind of revolution to the table. But what kind of a revolution do these stars want? Do they want a revolution against women? Or for women?

Many directors and producers claim their films to be ‘real, authentic, and in keeping with reality.’ But it’s not reality to say that women are comfortable with this kind of staring.

Even in songs, the women are dressed in skimpy dresses and dance of in front of a group of men who ‘order’ her to dance. And they’re portrayed as happy. But why are they happy about being objectified?

Here, we arrive at the role of women in films.

Is the role of women only ‘dancing’ to songs which talk about their body? Is the role of women to bend to the will of men? More importantly, if the role of women is that important in these films, is it okay to subject women to objectification?

First, it’s not the films which need a revolution. It is merely the role of women. Bring me a plot where the boy stalks the girl, but instead of falling in love, the girl makes a stand for herself. Make it a thriller, or make it a horror, but don’t subject the actors who are acting to a weak character like that.

Second, there isn’t a revolution needed for singers, but there’s a revolution needed for the kind of songs they write. The kind of songs I hear are truly GHASTLY. They are so vulgar and so demeaning that it is hard to imagine how one could have written a song about the weight of a girl. Not only are you saying that girls who weigh less are more pretty, but you are also objectifying her and her body.

Third, actresses themselves must put a foot down and think about all the young children who will watch and probably learn from the films about what they are and what they are not supposed to do in an uncomfortable situation.

Fourth, if the film industry is unable to move past its obsession with skimpily dressed girls and violent men with absolutely no morals, then maybe there is a need for a revolution where we start producing contemporary films which show the stark reality that many filmmakers refuse to acknowledge.

As a milennial, it’s never okay for me to see these things going on and to see women not getting their due respect. It’s not okay to see that women are being objectified and their roles are being defined by some people who do not even understand the basic struggles of women.

So, till women get their rightful place in the world, I will not stop writing about the daily issues that concern them, and their basic rights which are still being denied to them.